Since I last wrote Rob and I have hit a SERIOUS rough patch. I'm sure you may have guessed something like that since I have not wrote in a while. As much as I want to think what we've been going through is "normal" or "typical" for engaged couples, I have to be honest in saying it's typical for us. Often times in this relationship I've felt like we take one step forward, two steps back; and although I thought we put that behind us I'm afraid old habits die hard.
To make a really long story short I have put the engagement on hold.... and I've taken off the ring. As painful as this decision has been, I know for now it is best. No one should marry without knowing 110% that it's "right", and although I'm not saying it's wrong for us I am saying it's the wrong time. Lately our relationship has taken a back seat to Rob's "business". He summed it up perfectly by saying as a business owner "you don't own the business, it owns you". He's right in a lot of ways and although there's nothing wrong with that, I'm just not sure if that's what's best for me. I honestly believe there are deeper commitment issues that he's refusing to accept. I also believe that when a man asks you to marry him, he should be ready to GET MARRIED, especially after 5 years! Anyways.....I'm not angry, I'm not bitter (some of you may not believe that). It would be easy to go there, but why? It's no one's fault. So I'm choosing to look at this as yet another opportunity for self reflection and growth. My plan is to spend the next couple months reevaluating the situation and hopefully you'll be hearing from me soon. Either way, it's been great getting to know the girls at Chic Blvd and everyone that wrote me. Best of luck to all you future brides and have a great summer!
Sincerely,
Andrea
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Hi Andrea,
I found your diary as I was looking at the Absolutely Audrey website. I see that it has been a while since you last wrote but I was curious to see how things were going since you decided to take a break.
Another reason I was interested in writing you was because I am in the middle of planning my wedding (which is going to be held at Ponte!) and since my fiance and I got engaged we have definitely gone through some rough patches. We have been together over five and a half years and in reading your story I found many similarities to how I have been feeling. We have been testing each others patience a lot and am just trying to deal with things on a daily basis.
I am really interested to hear what has happened with you since you last wrote and to see where you stand with the wedding.
I hope that this finds you well. I look forward to hearing from you!
Sincerely,
-Dee
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